Damsels in Distress

I just finished reading Damsels in Distress; Biblical Solutions for Problems Women Face by Martha Peace. I hadn’t even known the book existed until I went to complete a book buying transaction for Al and it was there. Since I like presents, I didn’t question it at first because I was so excited. Seriously, if you wrap up a rock in a pretty box, I would get excited! But this book isn’t a rock in a pretty box. Apparently, Al read a review from a favorite blog and after reading about the chapter on hurt feelings, he knew it was for me. Wait a minute, hurt feelings, me?? Do you think I struggle with this, honey?? (Actually, I never call him honey, it’s just to let you know who I’m asking) I can’t believe you think that about me. That kind of hurts my feelings. (beat of silence) Ohhhhhhh…now I see 🙂
Martha Peace has written another great book for women that can be used alone or with another person or even in a group.

Martha starts the book with a clear presentation of the Gospel. She is preparing the grid through which all of our problems must be pressed and establishing the rock on which our problems will be ‘solved’. I was floored when she said that after she got saved, her pastor suggested she read “The Attributes of God” by A.W.Pink. A great suggestion, considering that one of the biggest problems facing the church is a lack of the knowledge of God, as He is. Martha recounts that reading the book helped her to know God and helped to inform her doctrine from the perspective of that knowledge.

“Instead of seeing my circumstances in a vacuum, I could remember, along with many of His other attributes, that God loved me, was compassionate, and was faithful to keep His promises.”

Martha then divides the book into three sections: Biblical Solutions for Problems with Others, Biblical Solutions for Problems with Ourselves, and Biblical Solutions for Problems with the World.

Problems with others includes gossip and slander, idolatrous emotional attachments, manipulation, and hurt feelings. Although the chaper on hurt feelings is excellent (honey:)), I was also convicted reading through the chapters dealing with manipulation and gossip and slander. It’s easy to rationalize that we might not have a problem with these sins because we aren’t quite as bad as the next person, but Martha talks about the heart and exposes sinful thoughts for what they are. She also has some great “put off” and “put on” charts based on Ephesians 4:22-24. Here are some quotes…

“When does a bitter, angry, malicious slanderer stop being a bitter, angry, malicious slanderer? When she starts being a kind, tender-hearted, and compassionate truth teller.”

regarding manipulation…

“you know you are guilty of sinful manipulation when you don’t graciously take ‘no’ for an answer and keep trying to convince the other person to let you have your way.”

She also deals with how to answer folly with truth and love if you are the person being manipulated. Good stuff!

And the questions at the end of each chapter are good questions, not fluff. For example, from the legalism chapter, this exercise: “Reread the questions from the list ‘A Model of God’s Grace.’ Write down the areas where you know you are guilty. Look up the Scripture at the end of each question. Think about and write down what you should be thinking or doing instead.”

There’s lots more in this book. Martha Peace deals with vanity, pms, legalism, feminism, roles, and trials all with the truth of God’s character and His Word. This book is worth your time and money.

Morning Coffee…

“If then you have been raised with Christ,
seek the things that are above, where Christ is,
seated at the right hand of God.
Set your minds on things that are above,
not on things that are on earth.
For you have died,
and your life is hidden with Christ in God.
When Christ who is your life appears,
then you also will appear with him in glory.”
Colossians 3:1-4